God, I haven't written in ages, I'm so crap. BUT I'M BACK. And with a rant (oh yeah)!
So basically, I was scrolling along my news feed, when this came up:
Here's the full article - http://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/cheryl-cole-name-change-not-3870588
I'll start by saying this: I don't give two shits what Cheryl Cole does with her marriage: if she wants to keep her name, fine, if she wants to take her husband's - go for it! But what I do care about is a) the person who wrote this joke of an "article" and b) the woman who subsequently shared it on Facebook with a comment slating feminism.
To be honest, I see where the woman who shared this is coming from, because Polly Hudson, the writer of this article, is saying some stupid shit. She's worded her argument very badly. But she does NOT reflect the average feminist.
Let's look at the most glaringly obvious fact here: IT'S WRITTEN FOR THE DAILY MIRROR. Which is kind of shitty. I'm sorry, but no self respecting, intelligent woman would write for the Daily Mirror.
Hudson describes the decision as "basically medieval". Um... what? Is it just me or is this whole "name-taking-father-giving-away" thing something that's been happening since forever and still happens all the time nowadays? Is this woman trying to create some sort of bizarre new ideology that TAKING YOUR HUSBANDS NAME IS MEDIEVAL, DUH, LIKE EVERYONE THINKS LIKE THAT NOWADAYS NOBODY HAS DONE THAT SINCE MEDIEVAL TIMES. This is the first I've seen of it. It's not a thing, so don't try and make it a thing. People still take their husbands names - A LOT.
I see where she's coming from when she talks about marriage as a whole:
"the groom asks the bride’s father for his permission, the father hands her over at the ceremony, like property, at the reception they both make speeches, along with the best man, i.e. all the blokes talk while the subservient little women keep schtum.
I'm a feminist (duh y'all know that by now) and I think it's fine to take your husband's name if you want to. It's your choice. I mean you can't expect her to keep the name of Cole, can you? Nobody wants to carry around the name of their cheating ex-husband. But as I said earlier - I don't give a rat's arse what Cheryl Cole does. The thing I give a shit about is the ridiculous comments that are made that, in turn, make feminism look ridiculous, when it's not. Feminism isn't "an excuse to bitch and moan about everything men do" - and I'm annoyed that some women are making it seem that way!
What do you guys think?